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Happy New Years!

‎2011, we got off to a horrible start, and ended pretty nicely. Over the last 17 months, I have learned about deep loss, deep love, trust, faith, forgiveness, vengeance, toxic people, grief, what a true broken heart feels like, knowing when to say no, knowing when to jump over the lines that make me scared, and just jumping feet first into something that I "think" is the right thing. I have learned how to be selfish and doing what makes me happy.
I think I could write a book about the last 2 years of my life.
To 2012, I welcome you. I know things can never get as bad as they have been in the past, and I already opened a new chapter in my life that has opened my eyes.
Happy New Years friends! Be Selfish, forgiving, trusting, and accept that some people love you, and some people love to make you miserable.
♥,
Melinda

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I am a 30 year old widow. My husband of 10 years committed suicide on 7/27/10. He had bipolar type 1. I have documented the last four years of our life, which can be triggering. 

I am adjusting to figuring out "my" life, instead of "our" live. I blog about suicide, bipolar, being a widow, happy things, depressing things, so please consider these things before adding me as a friend.

I love new friends, especially people that can relate.


Most of my posts are friends only. If you want to be added please leave a comment letting me know how I know you (Which community you are from).

With that being said, welcome to my real life journal.

-          Mel


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This is a ongoing list of quotes that I find and enjoy.

"Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it." -Thomas Fuller


You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. ~ Barbara De Angelis


“Live life so completely that when death comes to you like a thief in the night, there will be nothing left for him to steal.”


Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself. ~ Harvey Fierstein


"If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." — Marilyn Monroe


They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies. — William Penn


"This is who I am. Nobody said you had to like it." - Unknown


This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about." — Marilyn Monroe

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. - Maria Robinson”


"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." — Marilyn Monroe


“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford”


"I've never dropped anyone I believed in. ~ Marilyn Monroe"


"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." - Author unknown


"I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."
- Audrey Hepbur


This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about." — Marilyn Monroe

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. - Maria Robinson”

"I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." — Marilyn Monroe

"I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles." - Audrey Hepbur

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford”

"I've never dropped anyone I believed in. ~ Marilyn Monroe"

"When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." - Author unknown

To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing. -Elbert Hubbard
“But mostly, I cried because my life had been going full speed for so long and now it had just stopped, like running right into a big brick wall, knocking the wind and the fight right out of me. And I didn’t know if I’d ever even wanted to get up and start breathing again.” - Sarah Dessen

"If everything is under control, you are going too slow." - Mario Andrett

In the 1960s, people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird, and people take Prozac to make it normal. ~Author Unknown

"Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic."
— Dave Barry

Life is not a right, but rather a privilege. ~ Nickleback

" I am not afraid of the storms, because I am learning how to sail my ship" ~Louisa Mae Alcott~

" It is a true friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares."
— Henri J.M. Nouwen

You don't necessarily decide who walks into your life, but you can decide who you let stay & who you let go!

"Never judge a widow's progress by your own or anyone else's experience. Grief does not come in 'One size fits all.' We each are unique; and so is our grief." ~ Annie Estlun

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Out of the darkness

 I will be walking in out of the darkness to raise money for suicide prevention.. I will be walking in loving memory of my best friend and the love of my life. On 7/27/10 my husband of 10 years took his own life, and took a huge piece of my soul with him. Please consider donating.
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331 days

I lost you 331 days, and 4 hours, and 45 minutes ago.
Friends, I have a good friend, that her daughter was killed two years ago in a car accident. My friend is now working with the high schools to educate kids about distracted and aggressive driving. Please watch this video, my friend is the one with the dark curly hair. Please post this for your friends to see. YOU could save a life!

Scorpio Horoscope for September 2010

Scorpio Horoscope for September 2010

 

By Susan Miller

 

 

You have a simply beautiful chart in September. It's remarkable how many planets will be working together to support you, especially when it comes to finding love and having fun. You've not had a month this special all year, and it's only the beginning. September, October, and November will be pivotal and positive ones for you. Of the three, November will be your best, so as you go along, keep that thought in mind. How wonderful it would be that November, birthday month, is the most glorious month of 2010!

 

All year, Pluto has held the other planets ransom in a kind of steel grip. Last year when I began studying 2010, I have never seen a year like the one we are in now. I was astonished to see how much tension filled so many months, from February through October, due to the way Pluto was interacting with other planets.

 

Each year, in order to write my calendar that I sell on this site, I print out a full moon and new moon chart for each of the 12 signs - 24 charts - for all 13 lunar months, a total of 312 charts. Each year this gives me a Polaroid snapshot of the sky for all the months. As I paged through each sign for each month, I noticed November 2010 would break the chain of discord that each of us would feel during most of the year.

 

After we get through October, the planets begin to migrate into better places, and Pluto will gradually let go of his grip and no longer be able to taunt the other planets as harshly as he has during the bulk of 2010. At long last, I thought, November is that big month that changes everything! Fortunately, November is YOUR month so you will be right at home once you get to birthday time. You need not wait until November to feel relief, however - that's coming NOW, in the second half of September, and I will show you why.

 

As you begin September, it may seem eerily quiet. Not much will happen, so you are safe to take a vacation in September's first or second week if you like, because Mercury, planet of intelligent thinking, contractual negotiations, shipping, transportation, and commerce, will be in retrograde until September 12. This is a holdover from August 20, so you might as well go with the flow, because you won't miss anything at the office or socially while Mercury retrogrades.

 

When Mercury turns direct September 12, you will see the pace of life begin to move very quickly. If you don't rest in early September you will risk being tired when everyone else is returning from their vacations recharged, putting you at a competitive disadvantage. As a Scorpio, you understand this idea, for you know that you have to have the energy to be present and engaged with all that you do if you are ever to stand out.

 

There are many reasons why the second half of September will be important to you. Pluto, your ruler, will turn direct on September 14 for the first time since April 6, giving you much more power and force in your interactions and communications than you've had in those intervening months.

 

If you couldn't quite get your act together to take action in any particular phase of your life, it looks as though your timing was right. When your ruling planet is out of phase, it's often best to go back to look over past actions and study the results - re-think strategy and former assumptions. You were doing the research necessary to lay the groundwork for a major initiative that will begin later.

 

The time to act is now drawing near, and will begin when Pluto goes direct on September 14. Confusion will lift and suddenly you will know what you need to do. You will become energized and more confident in your abilities, and once you begin there will be no stopping you.

 

Remarkably, your OTHER ruler, Mars, will move into Scorpio for the first time since October 2008. This is incredibly fortunate, and when combined with Pluto's strong speed forward, this is headline news.

 

Mars is considered the energy planet that helps us focus our attention and helps display leadership, determination, courage, and drive. When Mars enters Scorpio on September 14, you will start a new two-year cycle - and the endeavors you start and the people you align with could easily be in your life at least two years, possibly forever.

 

Most of the time, astrologers look to the house that Mars happens to be visiting for clues to the area of life you should be focusing on. That does NOT apply when Mars tours your own birth sign, because in that instance, you are free to direct Mars' energy into ANY area of life you choose. That's a huge advantage!

 

While not everything will work out perfectly, most of your plans will, mainly because with Mars behind you, you won't take "no" for an answer. You will have until October 28 to make a big start toward accomplishing what you set out to do. You won't have to actually finish your goal, but you will have to plan your big initiative and get started on it. Chose a goal or opportunity that you feel excites you the most and has big potential, and then, forward ho! Wagon wheels will be rolling, dear Scorpio!

 

You really do have the deck stacked, for there is more! Venus will enter Scorpio on September 8 and remain in your sign until January 7. That's a long time, for Venus typically stays in a sign for about four weeks, not four months. The reason you get to keep Venus to yourself for a long time is that Venus will retrograde from October 8 to November 18, so she will spend time shuffling forward, back, and forward again.

 

Venus will be weak during her retrograde (October 8-November 18), but will remain in Scorpio nonetheless. With all this Venus movement, you get to have Venus in your sign much longer than most people do. Over the long run, that's a plus. Venus is known to bring beauty, fun, luxury, AND profits, mainly when she's moving direct.

 

Still, even if you subtract the retrograde period, you will still have Venus in your sign much longer than most people do. Just be sure NOT take any risks with your looks during Venus retrograde - no new radical changes in your hair, and no plastic surgery. Who wants a weak, out of phase Venus when a doctor is working on your FACE? Also, no big expensive parties or charity drives - wait until AFTER November 18.

 

When Venus and Mars travel together, as you will have in September and very early October, they will work to make you super-attractive and hauntingly memorable. You will sparkle with charisma, and honestly, you will be able to wrap others around your little finger. Who could possibly resist you?

 

If you are single, your love life should begin to get very active. It is hard to imagine how it could not! Venus and Mars form a very special bond in the heavens, for when they are found together, their main job is to spark the flames of new love. Venus and Mars will meet precisely in conjunction in Scorpio on October 3 (a date to circle on your calendar), but as you get to the second half of September, these two planets will be traveling close enough to cause things to happen! Were you born within four days of November 4 or 5? You will be given double the benefits and double the fun!

 

On top of Pluto turning direct, and Venus and Mars touring Scorpio, you ALSO have Jupiter, giver of gifts and luck, back to Pisces as of September 9, joining Uranus, planet of surprise, already in your house of true love. Both will fill this true love sector for months. Jupiter will remain in your house of true love until January 22, 2011, so the coming four months may well work out to be one of your best phases for romance that you've ever experienced! At the year-end holiday parties both planets will be at their best - and strongest. Everything is conspiring to bring excitement and love to your life, dear Scorpio.

 

As if all this were not enough, the majestic new moon of September 8 will light your eleventh house of friendships and social groups and give a boost to help you achieve a desire deeply important to you. The new moon's job is to package the energy that is circulating in the air and make it all accessible to you, all at once! The moon does this so well!

 

After this new moon appears, you will certainly have reasons to go out more to lunches, dinners, museum openings, concerts, ballets, parties, professional mixers, friend's weddings and birthdays - the works! At first, during September 8-12, you may link up with old friends that you have not seen in a long time. Soon you will start to meet new people too, and one or two could easily become fast friends of yours. This is exciting for you, for new friends will make introductions to even more new people and your circle will widen even further.

 

If your birthday falls on November 8, plus or minus four days, you will benefit very strongly from this glorious new moon, but every Scorpio of every birthday should notice a lilt to their social life.

 

This month you might want to join a new club or charity, or start to get active in social media. Doing things that will bring you in contact with groups and communities would be the right idea now. If you are a veteran member of Facebook or Twitter or have a blog, you may decide to redo your pages. You will be on an all-time creative high all month, thanks to the position of Jupiter in water sign Pisces. Make an effort to reach out and mix more with others, either professionally or for purely social reasons, because that is where your most impressive personal growth lies.

 

As special as this all sounds, I have been holding back - there is MORE!

 

Your most spectacular day, and one I have been bursting to tell you, is due Saturday, September 18, when Jupiter, the giver of gifts and luck, will conjoin Uranus, planet of surprise, also in Pisces. This is a VERY rare aspect, for Jupiter and Uranus hardly ever meet. They will have one more meeting on January 4, 2011, but after that they will not meet again in conjunction until 2024. In that year, the conjunction will be in Taurus, not a water sign like this month's conjunction, so it will be a little less spectacular for you. This month's vibrations are, quite simply, pure perfection for you.

 

It is evident that your angels are working hard for you! Jupiter and Uranus don't conjoin very often.

 

If your birthday falls on November 20, or within four days of this date, you will win the cosmic romantic lottery, for the mathematical degrees of the conjunction of Jupiter and Uranus will beam directly to your Sun.

 

Still, every Scorpio will have something to cheer about, because this aspect is a big, important one - certainly not subtle! It is an aspect of hope, happiness, and sudden, out of the blue good news. Be sure to look your best, and be sure to be out and about!

 

Your most romantic dates this month include September 4, 8, 9, 11, 12, and 16-19.

 

I should add here that this same linking of Jupiter and Uranus on September 18 will amp up your artistic abilities, too. You are about to surprise yourself and your colleagues with the originality and creativity. All month be determined to take creative risks and as you get closer to September 18, present your ideas to VIPs, for they will be too good to keep hidden.

 

The full moon September 23 will fall in your sixth house of work projects, so you may finish up an entrepreneurial project. It seems to be a pioneering assignment that had you traveling down a completely new path, and that is dearly important to you. This one seems to have allowed you plenty of room to display your individuality and you'll be thrilled to hear the applause you get.

 

I will admit getting this project will require lots of very hard work, due to Saturn's position to the Sun. This project may have been going on for days, weeks, or months, so it probably required a strenuous effort. No one ever sees what goes into a project behind the scenes. No one will know how many hours you put in, the people you consulted, the research you did, or how much you were paid (if you were paid at all) - all will be hidden from view. Others will simply judge your work on what they can see. It appears you've concentrated on every detail so financial rewards should be forthcoming, if not immediately, then in time.

 

If you were born late in your sign, near November 17-22, you may also see a romantic episode come to culmination over this full moon, September 23. This seems to be an important juncture in your timeline, so watch to see what happens. If you are already attached, this full moon may bring news of a pregnancy. Things could go either way, but let's think good thoughts - I will always bet on a tender, happy outcome.

 

There is one other way the full moon of September 23 may materialize things, and that is to bring about a personal best from a long-term fitness effort or from athletic training for competition. Sometimes we work for months to see progress, and just when we are ready to give up, a breakthrough occurs. That is what may happen now, near September 23.

 

Still, not all of September will be a bed of roses. September 21 brings the opposition of the moon to Uranus, and you could have problems either with your landlord or a housing / real estate situation that would come out of the blue. Because the Sun rules your solar tenth house of profession, it could be your work that brings tensions. In the latter case, a VIP may be erratic or unpredictable. Love could be rocky too, as well as a friendship. There are many areas lit up at this time, and you will have to watch them all, for there are blinking lights in all areas.

 

Two days later, on the full moon, September 23, the moon will be close to Uranus, also indicative of the domestic, family condition, so again, that's another sign that certain news may jangle your nerves. However, Jupiter will be standing near your moon too, and he will help you find a solution, should you need one. That's no small support - you have an ace up your sleeve!

 

Another wild card day will show up Thursday, September 30. It is likely to be a somber day, when Saturn conjoins the Sun. This is a meeting of fire (the Sun) and ice (Saturn), so many people find this aspect depressing. You may feel a bit tired on this day, or you may find that a co-worker will try to steal credit for your work. Be sure to do something fun on this day, such as to book a massage or see friends at night for dinner to keep your spirits high.

 

Actually, Saturn rules teeth and bones, so you can use this day to consult an orthopedic doctor or dentist, have a bone density test, and set up an exercise and nutrition program to strengthen your bones. You might buy a few sessions with a trainer to get better results at the gym. If you or a beloved relative has a chronic problem, say, like arthritis, the doctor may suggest supplements that can reduce pain and inflammation.

 

September 30 is also a good day to commit to a new course of action, for anything you agree to at this time would be in place a very long time. (Make sure you do like the deal, because it would be hard to leave later.)

 

The Sun rules your solar tenth house of career, so be careful with the work you turn in at the office from September 21 to 30, for you could be criticized by a VIP for an error or get some sort of news you were not expecting. Still, how things go will depend on what has been going on in your career in the days and weeks leading up September 30. If you've done all the right things, working in earnest, smartly, and with a creative flair, as I see you have, you should be in fine form when Saturn and the Sun come knocking.

 

Always remember, now you have Jupiter, the planet of good fortune, behind you in water sign Pisces. Jupiter will get even stronger when he goes direct (after retrograding since end of May) on November 18, the same day that Venus in Scorpio will go direct. You have Pluto in a VERY helpful position (particularly if you were born near October 25-27), helping you revitalize your health and lifestyle, as well as your ability to communicate. You have Uranus in helpful position too, until March 2011, so most of the surprises in your life will be positive ones. Wow! Scorpio, you have cornered the market in positive cosmic support!

 

Celebrate September, dear Scorpio. With each passing week, life will only get better and better. By November you'll be in the best position of all. You've long deserved this kind of cosmic support, so now that it will soon arrive, use it for all it's worth!

 

 

Summary

 

This has been a gratifying year for your career, but a strenuous one, too. Now that you've achieved quite a bit of professional momentum, you can safely turn your attention away from work for a few weeks. Relax, kick back, and plan to connect with friends, dear Scorpio. The new moon of September 8 will help you expand your circle of friends and you may be surprised how inspired you become by one or two you meet this month.

 

Clearly things are looking up. Mercury, the planet that has delayed your plans since mid-August, will now move ahead September 12. Also this month, Mars, your ruling planet, will enter Scorpio, allowing you to begin a critical new cycle. From now on, you are the leader of the parade, and others will march to your tune. You've not had this advantage since October 2008, so you will notice the difference! Mars in Scorpio will make you more vibrant and energetic too, and in love, more alluring.

 

The signs are everywhere that you are coming into your own and this has to be so exciting! Pluto, your ruler, will turn direct speed too, on September 14, after months of being retrograde. In weeks ahead, you may be gratified to see others will be more willing to support your causes. Rather than spend so much time looking back, you can pioneer forward. For months, you've had to use all your powers of persuasion to get critics on your side. Now they will admit you were right all along.

 

It will be funny to see former critics rush to your side. They will profess that they always supported you and never doubted you'd become the rock star that others are saying you are about to be. The old axiom, "Defeat is an orphan, but success has 100 fathers," comes to mind. Just smile and say thank you - you finally rallied others to your side.

 

Jupiter will be back in Pisces as of September 9, giving you an enormous boost both creatively and romantically. In fact, the fall should be your best period that you've enjoyed in a very long time!

 

Jupiter in his new position will also boost your health and vitality (as will Pluto and Mars) and also protect you by giving you a margin of error other signs won't have. If you make a mistake, you will be able to dust yourself off and keep going as if nothing happened, but other signs won't be so fortunate!

 

One of your very favorite days of the month - possibly of the year - will arrive on September 18 when benefic Jupiter and sparking Uranus will link in your house of true love. If you do meet someone special, you may feel hit by lightning - it could be THAT powerful! In the days leading to this day, September 16 and 17, present a creative idea.

 

Admittedly, September 21 could bring an upset in love or friendship, and the resulting hurt could run deep. It's not a day to take a risk but to sit back and find out what is to be revealed. Alternatively, a friend or lover may need your help. In that case, you'll be right there.

 

September 21 may also be stressful at work, too. An authority figure may make a shocking comment or criticism that sends you reeling. Stay on guard, but don't read things into this incident. Take what is helpful and discard the rest.

 

On September 30, you may find yourself in a political situation at the office that requires you to defend yourself. Someone may try to steal credit for your work or may work at cross-purposes to you. It can be a day that leaves you frustrated or deflated but only temporarily. Like the phoenix that is your symbol, soon you will rise again.

 

 

Dates to Note:

 

Mercury will retrograde in your friendship sector, a holdover from August 20, until September 12. You may run into several old pals in the first half of the month.

 

The new moon in Virgo on September 8 will help you make new friends and acquaintances - delicious! Consider joining a club or getting involved in social media.

 

The full moon will bring a work project or new job to fruition, September 23 plus or minus four days.

 

If you were born at the end of the sign, near November 19 or 20, you may see a romantic episode reach fullness, too.

 

Mars will enter Scorpio September 14, the time you will move to the head of the class. Mars in your sign will give you quite an advantage!

 

Venus will conjoin Mars - the most alluring aspect possible - as you get closer to month's end (to meet in early October). Your charm is on the rise, dear Scorpio!

 

Now that Pluto, your other ruler, is turning direct September 14 after five months of being retrograde, you'll see your life move at fast forward. If you were born October 25 or 26, or near these dates, you will have exceptional rejuvenation powers.

 

The conjunction of Jupiter and Uranus could bring all sorts of cosmic gifts on September 18: new love, a baby, a very fun memorable time with someone you love, greater creativity, or even news of a pregnancy. It's all so good for you and none of these are mutually exclusive! Spectacular!

 

You may see a sports or fitness breakthrough at the full moon, September 23, plus or minus four days. This full moon will be perfect for competitive athletics.

 

Stay strong on September 30 when you may feel a bit tired. A political situation at work could prove troubling. However, this day would be perfect for making a long-term promise that will last nearly forever. In health, see about bones and teeth.

 

Your most romantic dates: September 4, 8, 9, 11, 12, and 16-19.

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